The Real Housewives of Orange County alum Lydia McLaughlin and her family are mourning a tragic loss.

The former Bravo star’s brother Geoffrey “Geoff” Shyam Stirling Jr. was shot and killed during a confrontation with police in Southern California April 17. He was 45.

”My family and I are devastated by the loss of my brother,” McLaughlin, 44, said in a statement to TMZ April 18. “We are grateful for the outpouring of love and support from friends, family, and the community. We kindly ask for privacy as we mourn.”

In a statement released the same day, the Newport Beach Police Department said one of its officers had stopped Geoff, a resident of Laguna Niguel, Calif., for an alleged traffic violation while he was driving his motorcycle on a highway .

“Shortly after being stopped, Stirling became uncooperative and assaulted the officer,” the statement said. “During the ensuing violent altercation, Stirling managed to remove the department-issued taser from the officer’s duty belt and attempted to deploy it multiple times against the officer. At that point, an officer-involved shooting occurred.”